Friday, May 15, 2009

Tribute to my late brother-in-law

Something which my sister wrote.

I pen this with a very very heavy heart, needless to say those who read this will feel how I am feeling. I have a lot to say...but I really don’t not know where I should start from...We had spent a lot of time together these 2 weeks...Memories of him just keep flashing back. Tears flows……..there it goes….
Henry knew my sister through a secondary school mate and through fishing they got to know each other. My sister was then with another guy and Henry came between them. First impression of him was definitely not welcoming by our group of cousin….We start to call him names…how bad are we….Mee Pok was his nick back then…

I knew my sister have chosen him, she even hide from me and went for an overseas trip with him...silently….until I saw those photograph of him and her…By then , they were silently into relationship for almost a year. From there, I knew nothing could change my sister’s decision and from there we slowly welcomed him into our group of khakis….

We have our usual get away in the bowling centre, gathering and meet up during the weekends and we continued to tease him, called him names like Mee Pok and slowly we slip into a new nick called the “Highlighter”. Only we knew what the Highlighter means…He was a fishing king. There was once he caught a huge stingray and he didn’t kept it for himself but he shared his portion among his fishing khakis. We had a trip with him and that was the first trip we went with him and also the very last, because we have no interest in fishing…Through the years, fishing was always their activities and that is why we always get good fishes to eat from their trip.

He was a fishing king. There was once he caught a huge stingray and he didn’t kept it for himself but he shared his portion among his fishing khakis. We had a trip with him and that was the first trip we went with him and also the very last, because we have no interest in fishing…Through the years, fishing was always their activities and that is why we always get good fishes to eat from their trip.

On 30th December 2006, they had their customary…That was one of their happiest days in their life and that was also the first and the last time I called him Jie Fu. He embraced all round of activities lined up by the Sisters, you can see how eager he wants to wed my sisters…My sister was so blessed to have him....He was a treasure to her.A year later, in Dec 07 he was blessed with a little angel, Thadd ..He was his life…He loves Thadd a lot and in 2009 Mar his 2nd angel, Tricia came to this world….They were so blessed with a pair “PERFECT” Angel…One boy and one girl….He was a family man….loves his wife and kids…Though my sister always teases him that first pregnancy was better, she gets to eat better food, drink more coconut water, but I guess it just that time doesn't allow him to bring her there. Each time my sister nags, he would just smile and ignore her…

We had numerous oversea trips together….Jusco and Genting was one of our regular spot back then. We are all great gamblers, but he was the best! We went to Macau/Hong Kong on 30th November last year. That was the most wonderful trip we had….shopping gambling, eating, sleeping and resting…..and he planned to get us there which is due next week. Everything was well planned and only hotel room wasn’t booked. This bad news just came not in the right time. To mourn, we have decided to call off this trip.

Every weekend, we’ll gather at my mum house for MJ session. We had another new nick for him “TIE GUAI LI”….The hard legged. He also recently came out with Song like "933 golden pillow", to hint player what the other player tiles is. He was so good to see what tile u want exactly and hold on to the tiles you want….until the end of the game, he will flashes the tiles u are waiting for…and let you “DUI”. 85% of the time, he would have won us… but he was always so generous with his winning. He would either give his lose coins to the loser or treat after the game.

On 10th April, we celebrated Tricia full month at their home. On 11th April, we celebrated his birthday and Helen's Birthday at downtown east, japanese restuarant. He was still so well….and on 18th April, we went swimming at Anchorvale CC and follow by Rachel’s birthday celebration. We never knew that was his last celebration with us. On 21st and 23rd evening, we had an unusual MJ session which he called for…That was the last session of his hobby with us….and he slipped into comma the next day.....

He was a loving, caring, generous family man though at times he loses his temper easily. …That is Poh….that’s what my sister loves about him. He was his pillar; his everything…every single decision was made by him. For now, the pillar is supporting you behind, every decision that you are making, in fact he is making for you through you. It’s not easy to forget him, It’s not easy for tears to stop, It’s not easy for the heart to moves on, It’s not easy with words that can heal, It’s not easy to get life moves on..Just simply not easy…tear still flows….flow and flow….we will not stop anyone from crying as his memories are too clear and fresh on each of our mind.

May you rest in peace....Shine some guidance for Eileen, morally giving her support up there….looking over your 2 angels…..and guide them as they grow…grow to be a better person, that’s what you wish to see too…You are a wonderful man and we all treasure you and loves you..Its a great lost to us…..rest in peace….

we will give my sister the fullest support….remember to watch over her….she still needs you…rememeber your 2 lovely angels will always be ours….In memories of you we always hold...